If Life Ripens like a Fruit then...
Updated: Jan 11
Why take your own life and eat your fruit if it's not the sweetest and immature?
Dying young is like eating an undeveloped fruit, dying at the right time is like eating mature fruit and if we follow the analogy dying too late is like eating a piece of fruit that's gone off.
Take bananas, the growers pick them when they are mature and ship them when they are unripe. The bananas continue to ripen off the tree, growing softer and sweeter.
So when's the best age to go? Have days when you don't want to be here anymore? I do, and during those days I'm tempted to eat my fruit now. Is it as ripe as it could be? Perhaps, if I think my life can only get worse given how bitter it feels sometimes.
If I remember my fruit will only go off the longer I live, then this must be the sweetest my life will get? Or perhaps it's passed, and that's why it's so bitter.
Why take your own life and eat your fruit if it's not its sweetest and maturest?
I'm tempted to believe so. Ever feel like your life hasn't got better; it has got worse. A few close friends, family, my uncle, my close older friend and a family friend have all said, to the effect of, life gets harder. Does the fruit get harder before it's fully ripe though and bitter before it's at its sweetest?
What of the 20s, I remember hearing that I was in the prime of life in my 20s. Yet, if we follow the analogy, wouldn't this be the best age to eat our fruit and so take our own lives and die? Or perhaps like fruit are we just at the ripe yet ready stage. Turns out fruit development and maturation do not go hand in hand with ripening (see footnote 1).
However, ripening may be part of the maturation process, though not always.
If you're an orange, grape or strawberry you are picked at full maturation before being picked.
If you're a banana, pear or tomato you are picked when you're fully mature yet inedible until further ripening
The conventional belief we're in the prime of life in our 20s mostly relates to our physical strength more than anything. Scientific studies laid out in an article by Business Insider have shown that we excel at specific skills at specific times throughout life (see footnote 2).
Over 50 we're best at answering arithmetic (Journal of Psychological Science).
Over 60 our vocab is at its best (Journal of Psychological Science).
Over 65 we have the most body confidence (Galllup Survey).
Between 60-90 we have the most wisdom (Proceedings of the National Academy of Science).
OVer 80 we have the most psychological wellbeing (Proceedings of the National Academy of Science).
If you can wait for your 80s to eat your fruit and you've looked after it, you're likely to experience the most psychological wellbeing than at an earlier age. Like a fine wine, some things get better with age.
"With my new found love for plantain, I discovered if you like them sweet, which I do, the darker the better, what does that say about."
With my new found love for plantain, I discovered if you like them sweet, which I do, the darker the better, what does that say about age?
I'm 31. It feels like I'm overdue. I know I'm not alone in feeling this, perhaps that's why suicide is the most significant cause of death for men under 35 (footnote 2).
How do I eat my fruit? How do I die? In the sweetest way possible. If I could eat one fruit before I die it would be a mango. If I could eat it anywhere, I would sit on a beach, in Palawan as the sun sets, under a sky of blues blended into yellows and oranges. Eating a mango on a beach won't lead to my end unless it's a poisoned mango or the tide sweeps me away.
All this got me thinking when death looms more as preoccupation at a young age and less as an impending likelihood such as old age, a terminal illness, why take your own life if it's not fully ripe? If life will get sweeter?
Scientific studies have shown that we excel at specific skills at specific times throughout life.
Why not delay the gratification because life isn't at it's most delicious yet. Personally, when I think of death, as much as I take comfort in it, instead I'm learning to visualise this place on a beach I've visited.