So about Interracial Relationships
So I'm with a white polish chick and I'm mix-d*, which means we're in an interracial relationship.
So black with black or white with white isn't interracial. But what about mix-d with mix-d though e.g. my parents who both have white mothers and black fathers? Do they cancel each other out? There's an interesting thought!
Why term it and highlight it? Unless it's not the norm. Yet it seems it's fast becoming the norm, vogue even (just look at the royals).
I wonder if non-racial relationships will be referred to as same-race relationships (to highlight that's it no longer the default).
Slightly off topic, what about heterosexual relationships, will they be referred to as opposite-sex relationships in company with same-sex relationships. In fact like homosexuality, interracial relationships have historically been stigmatised, frowned upon and both illegal in some countries (and still are). Maybe that's another reason why they're labelled so. Though the label has taken on a more positive connotation than ever before.
I found my partner attractive, partly because of the colour of her skin. Does my partner feel the same? Totally, she loves my interracial make-up. Although what I also found attractive was her foreign accent.
So what's it like? How does it work? After all, we're in vogue. Look at how the media can't resist Harry and Meghan's interracial relationship. I can really only speak for our relationship and people I know (my mum and step dad and may partner's are both in interracial relationships). Yet, maybe there are some universals here. Race is a topic we discuss more and more. When we go out it's natural for us to play spot the interracial couple - in our city, there's not many given that non-white people make up 1.5-2% of the 90,000+ population - going to London we lose count!
So why the interest? Obviously the numbers but beyond our rarity, what makes us really interesting? I'd say:
▫Diversity of our backgrounds
▫Mutual tolerance of our cultural differences
▫A willingness to be out of our comfort zones and learn
My partner's first language is Polish, mine’s English and she's my best Polish teacher!
I think what's refreshing is our love for each other. And how that love embraces our differences. Come on, especially how the media can scrutinise us and define us. To be optimistic, we represent progress. A move towards more justice and racial harmony in society (or an attempt at it).
*I think having black and white heritage means I can have an interracial relationship with myself.
Contributor: my white friend with dreads, Jamie, who's brother in law is black (suggested the subject matter)